Often the disappointing thing in our lives is that we have the wrong expectations of others, especially when it comes to our relationships and interactions with them. Reducing your expectations of others will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and pain, and help you refocus on what you really need to focus on. Here are six expectations you should stop having of others.
1. Stop expecting others to agree with you
You deserve to be happy, you deserve to live a life that excites you, don’t let other people’s opinions make you forget that. Everyone lives in this world not to live in the expectations of others, in fact, the more you agree with what you do, you do not need to care too much about what other people think.
You must dare to be yourself and follow your own instincts. Don’t compare yourself to others, don’t envy other people’s good lives, walk your own path and stay true to your goals. The ultimate success lies in living your life happily in your own way.
2. Stop expecting others to respect you more than you respect yourself
True power comes from having faith and confidence and knowing what your mission is in this world and then taking action. You should resolve from this moment on to stop expecting others to be obligated to love, respect, and care for you, and to be brave enough to show yourself.
It’s important to be kind to others, but it’s even more important to be kind to yourself. When you practice loving and respecting yourself, you are giving yourself the opportunity to live a happy life. And when you are happy, you will become a better person, a better family member, and a better you.
3. Stop expecting people to like you
Sometimes you may feel unloved and feel as if you have no value, but the truth is that everyone is unique and priceless. Never forget your value and spend time with those who value you. No matter how good a person you become, there will always be negative people who will want to criticize you. Remember, smile, ignore them, and persevere.
4. Stop expecting people to be who you think they are
To love and respect others is to let them be who they are. When you stop expecting them to be who they might be, it allows you to appreciate their strengths.
You should respect people for who they think they are, not who you want them to be. Everyone is unique, you just need a little patience to see it. The more people you get to know, the more you will be able to look beyond the external judgments and see the true beauty within them.
5. Stop expecting people to know what you are thinking
Most people can not read minds, they will never know how you feel unless you tell them. Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you want a promotion because you haven’t told him. The person you like doesn’t seem to get along with you because you’re too shy? Yes, you guessed it, because you have never taken the first step to show your goodwill and desire to talk further.
In life, to communicate effectively with others, you often have to take the first step and say the first word, you have to tell people what you’re thinking first, and when you do, you’ll find that things are easier than you originally thought.
6. Stop expecting people to change all of a sudden
If you want your friends and family to change something you don’t like, it’s usually hard to do so because it’s hard to get someone to change a long-standing flaw, but you can tell them how you feel, how you think it will affect them, and what you want them to do.
In most cases, it’s hard to change people. Everyone has their own flaws, and you should accept them for who they really are, or you can choose not to interact with them. When you try to change people, they tend to stay the same, but when you don’t try to change them, when you support them and accept them, they tend to change slowly because they will understand that you are good for them.
People rarely behave the way you really expect them to, usually hoping for the best, but expecting the least. Remember, how happy you can be depends on how you think and how you choose to think about things. Even if a situation or relationship isn’t as good as you originally thought it would be, it’s worth a try, and if you can learn something from it, it’s worth it.
What do you always expect from others?
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